BFF {best frienemy forever}

"Frienemy: a "toxic" person who poses as a friend but subconsciously or consciously wishes you harm."
~via Urban Dictionary.

Hello friends, have any of you met my old frienemy Perfection?  She seemed fine at first... pushing me to do my best and get it just right but in the end she always, always ends up holding me back. 

My BFF Perfection and I have a long history together. She showed up in junior high where she helped me pick out "cool" clothes (think Esprit sweatshirts and  tight-rolled Guess jeans (why did we do that?!)), apply my make-up (like matching eyeshadow to my outfit, ick) and curl my bangs (remember Rave Hairspray?).

 She stuck around and changed with me as my life changed.

She was there for my wedding, making sure everything was just so.  It turned out lovely but wasn't perfect even though she tried to make it that way.   

My babies are perfect but that is thanks to the only perfect person, God. 

At this stage in my life I know my BFF's standards are too high most of the time and I don't let her bother me with her critical eye.  Or so I thought....

She can still get to me. 

She always gets to me when it comes to decorating (not so much on cooking or housekeeping). 

She doesn't get to me on everything I decorate or this blog probably wouldn't exist, but just those few projects which my BFF, Perfection, is holding me back with her critical eye.

There are 7 rooms in my house that to the average person, appear to be complete.  But to my old frienemy Perfection, they just aren't quite right. 

Certainly not ready to share with hundreds (or maybe more!?) friends in the blogosphere... something is missing, something could be better, something didn't turn out quite like she wanted it too. 

I thought that I wasn't paying much attention to her, that my house and these 7 rooms (and other random projects) were just "in progress" and someday, when they were perfect, I would proudly share them with everyone.  

Then it hit me like a ton of bricks... she was still holding me back, big time

I have lived here almost 2 years.  The rooms I am not sharing are pretty much done (besides that average tinkering that decorating addicts like myself always do) what am I waiting for? 

My supposed BFF also stops me from completing projects that aren't going her way, sometimes before I even get started because I know she'll show up and ruin everything.

So, I've decided to kick my longtime frienemy Perfectionism to the curb and share my "unperfect" stuff and attempt some new projects even though they surely won't meet her standards. 

I'm not sharing this so people praise me for my "unperfect" decor or to make myself feel better, but in the hopes that I can help others kick their frienemy Perfection to the curb with me. 

When I post the pictures of my "unperfect" rooms and projects it will be all I can do to not point out every little thing she thinks is wrong.  But, I'll get over it. 
How many of you know my frienemy?  Have you been able to drop her as your bff? 

If not, now is the time!

Life is too short to be perfect...


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  1. Life is Waaaaay too are right! I have got a little suprise for you...head over to Kreative Knack and check it out :)

  2. I know her! She used to live with me but was sent packing when the kids came along. Occasionally she visits. She stays just long enough to make me question everything I'm doing or have done in my house. She seems to be a very popular friend, but not in a good way.

  3. I can totally relate. Looking through most of my posts, I always mention something that could be better or should be done yet. Thanks for pointing out the frienemy. I'm going to try to put her promptings aside also!

  4. I am so glad you shared this. I can relate to you 100%! SOmetimes perfectionism can be a wonderful attribute, but more often it is the enemy! My reasons for not finishing (or even starting) to decorate a room is because I can't ever seem to get the others just right (in my mind at least). You're not alone! I am also going to use that note as a reminder. Maybe it will get me in gear to finally do the 1 room in the house that has been ignored. My master suite! THanks!
    Scissors & Spatulas

  5. Life is a challenge enough without having her around always making you second guess yourself. She is also a friend of mine, and it think it is time to kick her to the curb. Thanks!

  6. Oh.. what a gorgeous post!! She is surely a friend of mine.. but most times.. my heart just doesnt want to listen to her.. *smiles* Hope you have a gorgeous week ahead!!

  7. Funny we've never met, she is my BFF too!!!

  8. What an EXCELLENT post.. we all know her .. she isn't a nice person.. time to move on without Ms Perfection!! :-)

  9. I had to smile a bit.. because each time my BFF decides to show up I make sure to repeat to myself my mother's words (who knew all about my OCD side when I was still just a kid) " Better is enemy to good, if it is good leave it alone rather than chancing messing it up". I sometimes forget .. and each time I do it turns out she was right: Better is the enemy of good.

  10. Cute post and I look forward to your imperfect rooms.

  11. Ugh...she has been mooching off me for years!!! I want to kick her to the curb too :D

  12. I love this post! I often feel this way too. you are brave for posting this. I also wanted to thank you for your comment on my post about couponing. I am working up a post on keeping coupons organized without investing a lifetime on it :)

  13. I've decided I don't like perfect at all, it's just not interesting.


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